Betty Irabor Recounts Nasty Experience With A Nurse

Betty Irabor,  a Nigerian columnist, philanthropist, writer, publisher and founder of Genevieve magazine took to her Instagram to recount her experience with a rude and vicious nurse after her painful and heartbreaking stillbirth.

             She wrote:

“Is this your first                                pregnancy?

”The nurse ingreen uniform asked me as she looked at the screen of the scan machine.“No, I smiled at her. I was ecstatic because I was going to be a mum a third time… Then the bombshell!!! “If this isn’t your first pregnancy, then how come you didn’t know there has been no heartbeat?”! “What was she saying?”I sat up straight and stared at her. Shocked! I was still processing what I thought she meant when she hit me againwith; “Get up and dress up, go back to your Gynaecologist for an evacuation before you get an infection”. I began to cry, I was dazed, I was traumatized by thenews and the viciousness of the nurse. I took one long hateful look at her and cried all the way home. Evacuation over, Idecided I wasn’t going to let this matter rest. I wasn’t going to allow this nurse in aso called prestigious Lagos hospital unleash her bitterness, her bile and hate on any other woman. I was afterall a journalist, so I put pen to paper and told my story to Quality mag, Classic mag and other media where I was a guest columnist. My articles generated public outrage over the nurse’s conduct and the hospital had no choice but to invite me for a meeting. I was asked to describe thenurse, I did. She was summoned and we came face to face once more. Surprisingly, she did not deny any of my accusations, she simply said she was sorry. Sorry?The authorities apologized and promised to take appropriate disciplinarymeasures against the nurse…..It’s the International Women’s Day tomorrow, beyond the theme # Beboldforchange which addresses the issue of women transcending gender barriers, women must understand that they are nurturers first and foremost..

Weare sometimes deliberately unkind to oneanother. We sometimes can’t deal with the success or happiness of other women. As we join the conversations and narratives tomorrow in the pursuit of gender equality and fight against cultural biases that inhibit our growth and potential, let us remember that that change begins with how we as women see, treat and fight for other women.. change   truly begins when we do